So I started my new job today. I found out last Friday that they wanted me to take the position I'd interviewed for almost two weeks ago. I have to laugh because today wasn't any different from any other day really. Just a couple of short briefings added to the mix. The real schedule starts the week after next.
I'm still worried about the impact this is going to have on DS. I may end up having to switch day cares, though I'd rather not. I just don't like the idea of him being in day care for so long - have I mentioned that yet?
DS does seem to be doing a little better. He still has his moments where he gets quiet. I guess I'll just need to keep him busier. Week days aren't so bad, it's the weekends that have been rough. I'm hoping that this new job will help out with that. I'll have Saturday and Sunday off after this weekend. The fact that the weather is getting nicer and the days are getting longer helps too! I can't wait to get DS out into the back yard with his Tball set. He just loves baseball and asks to watch it all the time, lol! Yet another difficult thing to explain to a 3yo, the concept of a baseball season;-)
Monday, January 29, 2007
Thursday, January 25, 2007
My Second Worst Fear
So last night I sat down and started a post but was interrupted by the call of my night owl DS. I don't even really remember what I was going to blather on about.
You see, my sweet little boy (I am trying hard not to call him a baby since he's now 3 years old) was having a difficult day yesterday. I'm not sure what was wrong but I'm beginning to have my suspicions. I really think he's missing his daddy these days.
It all started to gel with me last weekend. I was visiting with my mom when I dropped him off to stay with her while I was at work. She was relating to me the story of one of her clients and his little boy. Apparently it's been a tough custody battle and the boy has been caught in the middle (surprise!). So anyway, the gist of the story is the boy is getting to spend more time with his daddy now. And as my mom was telling me this I noticed that DS had stopped playing with his toys and was on the verge of tears. When I asked him what was wrong he just looked at me and then fell into my chest. I asked him if he missed his daddy and he just nodded. I almost cried.
So this week has proceeded as normal - work, daycare, and our daily phone calls with DH. Normally DS will say a quick "Hi" and be done but lately he's started talking to DH. Of course DH doesn't really catch most of the conversation but he plays along well. Like I said, normal stuff - until yesterday. DS was having the worst day. I swear he had toddler PMS or something. I couldn't even look at him without him dissolving into tears. If I told him he couldn't do something or have something same thing, instant tears. His teacher at day care said the same thing. Even his nap didn't cure his mood like it normally would. So I just let him try to express his frustrations and feelings the best he could. It was a rough day!
Today I picked DS up from day care earlier than normal. We had a great time doing some grocery shopping and playing when we got home. DS has taken to hand games. You know the ones where you hide a ball or something in one hand (with your hands behind your back) and have someone guess which hand it's in. After dinner as I was helping him wash his hands and face DS decided to pretend he had a camera and was taking my picture. We were having great fun with this until I said "Oh, that was a good one! Let's send that one to Daddy!" DS nodded his agreement but was very quiet after that.
This is what I feared would happen. How do I help my son understand why his daddy isn't here when everyone else's daddy is? He's 3 years old for crying out loud! All he knows is his daddy isn't here and there's no way to explain it so he'll understand. Believe me, I've tried. And even if I could explain it it doesn't change the fact that DH isn't home with us and won't be for another 7 mos.
And just in case you were wondering, all the attention lavished upon a child by grandparents and aunts and uncles does not replace a missing parent.
You see, my sweet little boy (I am trying hard not to call him a baby since he's now 3 years old) was having a difficult day yesterday. I'm not sure what was wrong but I'm beginning to have my suspicions. I really think he's missing his daddy these days.
It all started to gel with me last weekend. I was visiting with my mom when I dropped him off to stay with her while I was at work. She was relating to me the story of one of her clients and his little boy. Apparently it's been a tough custody battle and the boy has been caught in the middle (surprise!). So anyway, the gist of the story is the boy is getting to spend more time with his daddy now. And as my mom was telling me this I noticed that DS had stopped playing with his toys and was on the verge of tears. When I asked him what was wrong he just looked at me and then fell into my chest. I asked him if he missed his daddy and he just nodded. I almost cried.
So this week has proceeded as normal - work, daycare, and our daily phone calls with DH. Normally DS will say a quick "Hi" and be done but lately he's started talking to DH. Of course DH doesn't really catch most of the conversation but he plays along well. Like I said, normal stuff - until yesterday. DS was having the worst day. I swear he had toddler PMS or something. I couldn't even look at him without him dissolving into tears. If I told him he couldn't do something or have something same thing, instant tears. His teacher at day care said the same thing. Even his nap didn't cure his mood like it normally would. So I just let him try to express his frustrations and feelings the best he could. It was a rough day!
Today I picked DS up from day care earlier than normal. We had a great time doing some grocery shopping and playing when we got home. DS has taken to hand games. You know the ones where you hide a ball or something in one hand (with your hands behind your back) and have someone guess which hand it's in. After dinner as I was helping him wash his hands and face DS decided to pretend he had a camera and was taking my picture. We were having great fun with this until I said "Oh, that was a good one! Let's send that one to Daddy!" DS nodded his agreement but was very quiet after that.
This is what I feared would happen. How do I help my son understand why his daddy isn't here when everyone else's daddy is? He's 3 years old for crying out loud! All he knows is his daddy isn't here and there's no way to explain it so he'll understand. Believe me, I've tried. And even if I could explain it it doesn't change the fact that DH isn't home with us and won't be for another 7 mos.
And just in case you were wondering, all the attention lavished upon a child by grandparents and aunts and uncles does not replace a missing parent.
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
Snow - Bleh!
OK, I'm going to whine here for a minute. If you don't want to listen turn the volume down on your TV for 30 seconds...
I like snow, I really do, but this is getting ridiculous! We've had the worst weather the last 2 mos or so. The end of November was the first big snow storm, then a week later was the big windstorm followed by snow last week. Last week and this week we've gotten more snow followed by freezing temps at night and warmer temps (above freezing - barely) during the day. That means MORE ice on the roads. People here don't do well with ice on the roads.
And to top it off schools have been closed which means my programs at work have been cancelled. This means no pay check for me. Lord, I hope I get the job I interviewed for today. It's full time which means better pay (not by much but better) and I'm not going to be as dependant on programs for hours.
DS has been having the time of his life. This morning he looked at me and said "I love the snow Mommy!" while we were cuddling on the couch watching it snow. It did concern him that Santa might be lost though. I think I managed to assuage his fears by explaining about the North Pole again;-) Ahhhh to be 3 and have your biggest concern be whether Santa is directionally challenged.
And did I mention I'm PMSy and AF showed yesterday without so much as a crampy warning?!
About the only good thing that's happened this week is that DH has managed to not get blown up. The last couple runs he's had to make have been pretty intense. I don't have all the details of course but I don't really need them.
I like snow, I really do, but this is getting ridiculous! We've had the worst weather the last 2 mos or so. The end of November was the first big snow storm, then a week later was the big windstorm followed by snow last week. Last week and this week we've gotten more snow followed by freezing temps at night and warmer temps (above freezing - barely) during the day. That means MORE ice on the roads. People here don't do well with ice on the roads.
And to top it off schools have been closed which means my programs at work have been cancelled. This means no pay check for me. Lord, I hope I get the job I interviewed for today. It's full time which means better pay (not by much but better) and I'm not going to be as dependant on programs for hours.
DS has been having the time of his life. This morning he looked at me and said "I love the snow Mommy!" while we were cuddling on the couch watching it snow. It did concern him that Santa might be lost though. I think I managed to assuage his fears by explaining about the North Pole again;-) Ahhhh to be 3 and have your biggest concern be whether Santa is directionally challenged.
And did I mention I'm PMSy and AF showed yesterday without so much as a crampy warning?!
About the only good thing that's happened this week is that DH has managed to not get blown up. The last couple runs he's had to make have been pretty intense. I don't have all the details of course but I don't really need them.
Monday, January 08, 2007
Reality Check
So I'm not turning out to be any better at posting this year than I was last year. I swear, I look away from the calendar for a moment and a week has gone by!
Not that there is much to really write about these days. With the holidays over we are settling back into routine. This week should be interesting on a couple different fronts:
1) I will be interviewing for a full time position at the museum. Hooray! I really hope I get the job. If I don't I'm going to have to find another part time one close to home. I'm just not picking up the hours I need, unfortunately.
2) The weather is promising to be nasty starting tomorrow evening. They are even calling for snow! As long as the power doesn't go out again, I'm ok with it.
On the bright side, DS is doing really well with potty training. He hasn't had a real accident in about three weeks. By real I mean flat out ignoring the urge to go and soiling his pants. He's had one or two "misses" where he's almost made it but not quite. My least favorite thing in the world of potty training a boy is trying to get him to stand still long enough to finish actually peeing IN the toilet. I've cleaned the bowl and floor in both bathrooms in the house (that we use) more times lately...and it's one of my least favorite chores.
DH is doing well, though he sounds tired when I talk to him. He's hating being over seas. I really think being gone for the holidays got to him. It makes me glad that he didn't end up getting the two year deployment to Afghanistan! I don't think he would have been able to make it.
I somehow need to figure out a time to go visit the IL. DH was saying today that his mom is having a hard time right now. FIL had ankle surgery back in late Sept/early Oct and is wheelchair bound for a while. That means MIL has to take up the slack with chores (feeding the animals and caring for FIL being the big ones). I don't know how much help I'll be if we go, though. I'd hate to add one more thing to her plate, KWIM?
That reminds me, I need to check my lottery tix and see if I won this weekend. That would solve a number of problems! Ouch! Did I ask you to pinch me and bring me back to reality?! Sigh! ;-)
Not that there is much to really write about these days. With the holidays over we are settling back into routine. This week should be interesting on a couple different fronts:
1) I will be interviewing for a full time position at the museum. Hooray! I really hope I get the job. If I don't I'm going to have to find another part time one close to home. I'm just not picking up the hours I need, unfortunately.
2) The weather is promising to be nasty starting tomorrow evening. They are even calling for snow! As long as the power doesn't go out again, I'm ok with it.
On the bright side, DS is doing really well with potty training. He hasn't had a real accident in about three weeks. By real I mean flat out ignoring the urge to go and soiling his pants. He's had one or two "misses" where he's almost made it but not quite. My least favorite thing in the world of potty training a boy is trying to get him to stand still long enough to finish actually peeing IN the toilet. I've cleaned the bowl and floor in both bathrooms in the house (that we use) more times lately...and it's one of my least favorite chores.
DH is doing well, though he sounds tired when I talk to him. He's hating being over seas. I really think being gone for the holidays got to him. It makes me glad that he didn't end up getting the two year deployment to Afghanistan! I don't think he would have been able to make it.
I somehow need to figure out a time to go visit the IL. DH was saying today that his mom is having a hard time right now. FIL had ankle surgery back in late Sept/early Oct and is wheelchair bound for a while. That means MIL has to take up the slack with chores (feeding the animals and caring for FIL being the big ones). I don't know how much help I'll be if we go, though. I'd hate to add one more thing to her plate, KWIM?
That reminds me, I need to check my lottery tix and see if I won this weekend. That would solve a number of problems! Ouch! Did I ask you to pinch me and bring me back to reality?! Sigh! ;-)
Tuesday, January 02, 2007
Happy New Year
Time has flown since my last post. The holidays have come and gone with a last minute flurry of activity, very much enjoyed by my DS and myself even though DH wasn't able to be with us. We did get to visit with him on web cam for a bit, which was great. We haven't done that in a long time.
So the calendar has turned another page and the new year is now one day old. I sit in my bed, house quiet except for the gentle snoring of my DS in the next room and the rain pattering on the roof outside, and I wonder what this year will bring for us. I normally wish desperately for the year to go by slowly but this year I'm hoping the first 7 months or so go by as quickly as the first day did. This way DH will be home with us and we can begin to make plans for the future again.
I wish all my friends and family a year of peace and happiness. May all your hopes and dreams become reality and may your homes be filled with love and laughter.
So the calendar has turned another page and the new year is now one day old. I sit in my bed, house quiet except for the gentle snoring of my DS in the next room and the rain pattering on the roof outside, and I wonder what this year will bring for us. I normally wish desperately for the year to go by slowly but this year I'm hoping the first 7 months or so go by as quickly as the first day did. This way DH will be home with us and we can begin to make plans for the future again.
I wish all my friends and family a year of peace and happiness. May all your hopes and dreams become reality and may your homes be filled with love and laughter.
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